I love quizzes and surveys so I decided to complete some end of year questions for 2019. Disclaimer: you’ll find a lot the word “therapy” here.
What did you do in 2019 that you’d never done before?
- Going to therapy
- Traveling with Eduardo
- Purchasing a new car
- Adopting a female dog
- Taking the Enneagram test (I’m type 9)
- Spending Thanksgiving with my oldest brother
- Completing a full year of One Little Word project
- Doing December Daily
Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
For 2019 I chose 10 “intentions” (without exploring the meaning of that word) that were actually goals. I made progress in all of them although I didn’t complete some of them as I envisioned at the end of 2018. I have chosen my goals/resolutions for 2020 based on five intentions. I talk about it here.
Did anyone close to you give birth?
This year I had the chance to meet three beautiful and healthy babies: my niece/goddaughter, the baby girl of a coworker/friend and the baby boy of another coworker/friend.
Did anyone close to you die?
What countries did you visit?
In January-February we went to Spain. It was Eduardo’s first time but my second visit. Sevilla and Granada were first time visits for me though. It was a great trip!
What would you like to have in 2020 that you lacked in 2019?
For 2020 I would like to feel less guilty for doing the things that make me happy and I would like to accept myself more, not only regarding my body but also my personality and the changes I am trying to make.
What dates from 2019 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
January 26- Arriving to Sevilla
February 28- Joy’s adoption
March 10- Driving a new car of my own for the first time
April 13- Being asked to be a godmother
July 3- Our weekend at Culebra
Oct 13- Isarelis’ baptism
Dec 6- DY concert￼
What was your biggest achievement of the year?
My biggest achievement of 2019 was making the decision of going to therapy and learning that other peoples opinions/perception about me are not my responsibility.
What was your biggest failure?
In 2019 I failed again in my intention of spending more time with my friends and family (especially my parents). I didn’t found the emotional energy to show up and make this a priority.
Did you suffer illness or injury?
Besides my lower back pain, I did not suffer from any illness or injury.
What was the best thing you bought?
The best thing I bought was my car. It is my first new car and it meant a lot because I didn’t believed that I could pay one on my own and I learned that I actually can.
Whose behavior merited celebration?
Mine! I celebrate everyday that I now see others differently especially when they have a perception of me that hurts me or makes me feel uncomfortable. I now know why this happens and I am working so it doesn’t affect me anymore.
Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?
Honestly, the behavior of the people around me who doesn’t understand and respect the things I like and the choices I make for myself. It is hard when the people that say they love/appreciate you mocks you for the choices and decisions you make.
Where did most of your money go?
As usual, most of my money went to mortgage, loans and credit cards. And also to coffee!
What did you get really, really, really excited about?
I got excited for traveling to Spain, for having a dog at home, Daddy Yankee’s concert and for the memory keeping plans I made for 2020.
What songs will always remind you of 2019?
Que tire pa’lante – Daddy Yankee
All Bastille songs and covers
Dale vieja dale – Toño Rosario/Ulises Bueno
Without Me – Halsey
Promises – Sam Smith
All Khalid songs
Did you make any new friendships?
I spent lots of time chatting with my two Internet friends Robin and Jess. It’s amazing to have people who doesn’t judge and that share things in common with you.
Did you go on vacation?
Yep. Spain and Culebra.
What do you wish you had done (more and less) of?
I wish I had spend less time on my phone, eaten less Cheetos and drank less soda.I also wish I had exercised more, spend time with family/friends more.
How did you spend the holidays?
We spent Christmas at my sister in law´s after visiting my mom and then my niece. It was unplanned but we exchanged presents and spend the rest of the evening talking and drinking beers.
What new food did you discover?
Zoodles (I am hooked!).
What was your favorite TV program?
The Handmaid´s Tale season 3.
What was one of your favorite experiences of the year?
Visiting La Alhambra in Granada, Spain.
What was the best book you read?
The only book I read completely was ¨The Testaments¨ by Margaret Atwood and I loved it.
What was your greatest musical or artist discovery?
Bastille. I was introduced to Bastille by an old friend a couple of years ago but it wasn’t until 2019 that I discovered all the ridiculously awesome covers by Bastille and all their songs that are just perfect. My favorite this year are ¨Flaws¨, ¨Oblivion¨ and the ¨Someone you loved¨ cover.
What did you want and get?
My car. Completing the One Little Word workshop.
What did you want and not get?
A new job. Finishing my started books. Learn InDesign.
What was your favorite film of this year?
It´s a Wonderful Life (it´s a old movie but new for me.)
What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I wasn’t in the mood for celebrating my 32nd birthday. I spent the day at home, sad and angry, but then had dinner with my brother and his family.
What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Discovering my professional/career purpose and finding a way to make money doing something I both love and enjoy.
How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2019?
This year I kept wearing my favorite outfit ever: chambray shirt and jeans/black leggings and my converse. Although I dressed like a granny most of the year (especially for work), I started using more jewelry and makeup at the end of the year.
What kept you sane?
Therapy and Wellbutrin. Memory keeping and drawing. Having Joy.
Who did you miss?
Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2019.
The most important thing that I learned in 2019 and that have changed my life has been that other people ´s perception and opinion of me is not my responsibility and is (in most cases) a projection of their own lives, insecurities, etc… I will say this as many times as needed because this is one of the greatest truths that I needed to learn in order to improve my relationship with myself and with other people.
Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
“In my blood”
Help me, it’s like the walls are caving in
Sometimes I feel like giving up
No medicine is strong enough
Someone help me
I’m crawling in my skin
Sometimes I feel like giving up
But I just can’t
It isn’t in my blood
It isn’t in my blood
Found these questions at Jolie Ankrom’s blog and loved them!